People with positive thinking would be able to overcome disappointments and frustrations better. This is because their minds are already set into action about the things that they can do and control instead of the things that they have missed and cannot change anymore. Optimistic people would not stop on “what went wrong” but would also proceed to “what’s next”.
It could be challenging to develop a positive mind, but once positive thinking becomes a habit, you will be reaping all its countless benefits, such as:
* It increases your ability to cope with stress.
* It’s good for your health.
* It boosts motivation.
* It opens up opportunities.
* It increases your tolerance to pain.
1. Count your blessings:
A lot of negative thinkers tend to forget about what they already have. Try to focus on the things that you can be grateful for, such as your family who, in your mind, created that big pile of mess, or the fact that you have woken up healthy and ready to face the day. When you shift into this way of thinking, it would be hard to look at challenges the same way again. You will find that in spite of the difficulties, there are still a lot of things to be thankful for.
2. Speak Affirmation to Yourself Daily:
It is one thing to believe that you are capable of something, but you could elevate this belief if you actually hear it from yourself. Try the “I am…” statements where you can choose from a list of affirmations that you can say. Just make sure that you carefully create an honest, truthful and relevant list that you can use.
3. Replace Negative Thoughts With Positive Ones:
Recognizing and testing the accuracy of a negative thought is your first step into gaining an advantage over it. Once you have learned to identify and challenge these negative thoughts, it would be easier for you to turn these into positive. Keep in mind, though, that converting your thoughts should not mean that it is something that you will go blindly optimistic about. Being optimistic is not expecting something to turn out in your favor without any grounds. If you did not bother to practice driving, then you cannot expect to pass the exam by sheer luck. Be positive about a desirable outcome if you are 100% sure that you have done your best to acquire the best possible result. Hope for the best when you have done your best.
You can also challenge your brain by asking it questions. But make sure that you carefully construct your questions in such a way that it would require a positive answer. So instead of asking “why is it so difficult to pass this driving test?” try “How did I ever get this opportunity to drive my own car?” Make a conscious effort to direct the focus of your questions to positive thoughts.
4. Finding the Good in Every Bad Situation:
Enhance your perspective to find the good in even the worst case scenarios. Experiencing bad situations is a normal part of life, and it’s vital to learn how to handle them well.
Many times, people tend to look at situations in black or white. It’s either good or bad. If you think of things this way, your actions become restricted and your options become limited. You begin to doubt yourself. If you don’t learn how to find the good even in the bad situations, then you inevitably allow bad situations to remain as such. Don’t look for weaknesses, but look for areas of improvement. Don’t look for threats, but look for challenges. Don’t look at failures, but see the motivation to try again and do better.
“Every bad situation will have something positive. Even a dead clock shows correct time twice a day. Stay positive in life. God knows what’s best for you….!”- Anonymous
5. Surround yourself with positive people:
It’s true that positivity is contagious. Negativity is the same way. And you have the power to choose the type of people you want to surround yourself with.
When you frequently hang out with positive people who would provide encouragement and affirmations, you will be setting yourself up for success in whatever path you choose to take.
But of course, in reality, there are people who are close to us who might have a negative outlook on life. If this is the case, then you have the responsibility to pull them back up and provide encouragement to go on a journey with you to positivity. Since you now have the knowledge on how to have a positive mind.
Note: A positive mindset can indeed do wonders in your life, but it requires constant practice and application. It’s an ongoing process that needs to be maintained. It should be in your nature, and not just something that you turn to when things go wrong.
Benjamin Smith (2016) Mindset: How Positive Thinking Will Set You Free & Help You Achieve Massive Success In Life.
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